To Be Better Parents by Forgiving Your Parents
Ever wonder forgiving is so powerful. Forgiving will give you the power to parenting. Robert Karen, a psychologist, shared some tips on how to be better parents (via The Oprah Magazine). As parents, many of us won’t easily realize that our parenting method and approach are influenced by our own parents, either in good or bad ways. If our parents were wise and knew how to nurture us, we could not only grow happily and fully actualize our potential, but also know how to bring up our own kids consciously or unconsciously following our parents’ good model. Otherwise, if we were hurt by our parents because of their selfishness, meanness or negative criticism, then our anger and grudges that built up inside would hinder us to grow into a whole person.
But letting our parents off the hook, psychologist Robert Karen says, is the first step toward happiness, self-acceptance and maturity. The thoughts below can help the healing begin:
- Resolve resentment
- Hold on to the good
- Foster true separation
- Let your parents back into your heart
- Commit to the journey
Actually, forgiving your parents, not only benefits yourself to gain happiness, but also ensures our kids to have better and healthy development as our kids can be brought up in a stable emotional and well-balanced environment.