Comments on: Parenting Your Teenager: Responding to a Poor Progress Report in School http://www.parentingideas.org/articles/general/parenting-your-teenager-responding-to-a-poor-progress-report-in-school-2/ To Inspire with Ideas and Practical Tips on Parenting Fri, 29 Aug 2008 06:54:23 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: Colleen Palat http://www.parentingideas.org/articles/general/parenting-your-teenager-responding-to-a-poor-progress-report-in-school-2/#comment-80348 Colleen Palat Sat, 15 Mar 2008 04:08:44 +0000 http://www.parentingideas.org/articles/general/parenting-your-teenager-responding-to-a-poor-progress-report-in-school-2/#comment-80348 What an interesting article! Most parents can relate to this at some point in their child's educational career. Thank you for such great tips and suggestions. What an interesting article! Most parents can relate to this at some point in their child’s educational career. Thank you for such great tips and suggestions.

]]> By: Maggie http://www.parentingideas.org/articles/general/parenting-your-teenager-responding-to-a-poor-progress-report-in-school-2/#comment-79703 Maggie Tue, 11 Mar 2008 15:59:56 +0000 http://www.parentingideas.org/articles/general/parenting-your-teenager-responding-to-a-poor-progress-report-in-school-2/#comment-79703 There’s no doubt that grades are important! Because they are so important, many parents make the mistake of displaying a lot of anger and frustration when their kids get poor ones. When this happens, kids spend more energy thinking about their parents’ anger and frustration than thinking about how their grades will affect their lives. Listed below are some quick tips from Love and Logic (www.loveandlogic.com) for responding to poor grades: • Spend most of your energy commenting on the good grades. The key is to help your child feel so good about what they do well that they will be willing to work harder at what they don’t do well. • Display sadness over the bad grades. Experiment with saying, “This is so sad. I’m sure glad that I didn’t get that grade. The good news is that we are going to love you regardless of how well or poorly you do in school.” • Ask questions about the bad grades like “What are your thoughts about the grade?” or “Do you have any plan to deal with the subject?” or “What sort of help can we give you on this?” • If consequences for poor grades aren’t motivating your child to do their work, stop providing them. When this occurs, it means that there are other issues that need to be dealt with first. These include helping your child develop a better self-concept, teaching them responsibility through chores, helping them with learning problems or different learning styles, etc. • Remember that good character is more important for life-long success than good grades. There’s no doubt that grades are important! Because they are so important, many parents make the mistake of displaying a lot of anger and frustration when their kids get poor ones. When this happens, kids spend more energy thinking about their parents’ anger and frustration than thinking about how their grades will affect their lives. Listed below are some quick tips from Love and Logic (www.loveandlogic.com) for responding to poor grades:

• Spend most of your energy commenting on the good grades. The key is to help your child feel so good about what they do well that they will be willing to work harder at what they don’t do well.

• Display sadness over the bad grades. Experiment with saying, “This is so sad. I’m sure glad that I didn’t get that grade. The good news is that we are going to love you regardless of how well or poorly you do in school.”

• Ask questions about the bad grades like “What are your thoughts about the grade?” or “Do you have any plan to deal with the subject?” or “What sort of help can we give you on this?”

• If consequences for poor grades aren’t motivating your child to do their work, stop providing them. When this occurs, it means that there are other issues that need to be dealt with first. These include helping your child develop a better self-concept, teaching them responsibility through chores, helping them with learning problems or different learning styles, etc.

• Remember that good character is more important for life-long success than good grades.

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